Showing posts with label Rush Hospital Chicago. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Rush Hospital Chicago. Show all posts

Thursday, August 16, 2012

Coming home…

There was nothing more that I could do.  The hospital wanted to know if Jim’s oncologist would sign off on the death certificate.  I was sure he would because it was exactly 10 days since he had seen Jim.  The doctor refused saying it was over 10 days and he couldn’t sign the death certificate, something about it not being legal to do so after not having seen the patient in 10 days.

Well, now I ranked right at the top of my class in high school and I think I can add.  Nine days in November and one day in December add up to 10.  I was really so aggravated with that doctor.  If I hadn’t been in so much emotional turmoil at that time I would have called and spoken to him personally.  This was another doctor that had a God complex, who was haughty and overbearing.  Jim had been stuck with him through our insurance and couldn’t change.  This is one reason why I am writing these posts, I still feel some animosity towards this doctor and I need to let go of that!

This meant that Cook County would have to sign the death certificate. 

Jim and I had talked many times about cremation and he had stated many times that he did not want a funeral with people lying about how good he looked.  I will be cremated too and my ashes placed beside Jim’s.

It was dark when my brother and I got home that evening.  My brother, Bill, stayed all night and the next morning until my daughter got there, then he went home.  beth

Tuesday, August 14, 2012

It didn’t work…

The aggressive chemo did nothing but make Jim sicker.  He was given 10 units of blood and then because of the chemo he had to have dialysis.  We both knew the end was near but we didn’t like to talk about it.  Jim must have told me  a dozen or more times how very much he appreciated my taking care of him.

I would always reply by asking him if our roles were reversed would he take care of me.  Of course, was always his answer,  It was hard but I wouldn’t have had it any other way.  Jim was my life companion and the thought of losing him was terrifying for me.

We spent the next three weeks in and out of the hospital and finally the last visit to see his oncologist.

I am quoting an excerpt from my WLS blog dated 21 November 2006:

“This will be my last post for awhile as I have many things to get done. The oncologist told Jim today that he could do nothing more for him. We have been referred to a specialist in Chicago at Rush Hospital that deals in clinical trial type cancer meds. This appt is Nov 30th. This is our last hope. The doctor told us today that as it stands now there is about 2 months left to us. Very hard news for us to take during the holiday season. I feel very grateful to have had Jim for 51 years (this Dec 2nd). I am asking if each of you will remember Jim in your prayers and ask God to help us to be strong.”  Tomorrow our trip to Rush Hospital.  beth