Thursday, August 16, 2012

Coming home…

There was nothing more that I could do.  The hospital wanted to know if Jim’s oncologist would sign off on the death certificate.  I was sure he would because it was exactly 10 days since he had seen Jim.  The doctor refused saying it was over 10 days and he couldn’t sign the death certificate, something about it not being legal to do so after not having seen the patient in 10 days.

Well, now I ranked right at the top of my class in high school and I think I can add.  Nine days in November and one day in December add up to 10.  I was really so aggravated with that doctor.  If I hadn’t been in so much emotional turmoil at that time I would have called and spoken to him personally.  This was another doctor that had a God complex, who was haughty and overbearing.  Jim had been stuck with him through our insurance and couldn’t change.  This is one reason why I am writing these posts, I still feel some animosity towards this doctor and I need to let go of that!

This meant that Cook County would have to sign the death certificate. 

Jim and I had talked many times about cremation and he had stated many times that he did not want a funeral with people lying about how good he looked.  I will be cremated too and my ashes placed beside Jim’s.

It was dark when my brother and I got home that evening.  My brother, Bill, stayed all night and the next morning until my daughter got there, then he went home.  beth


  1. Hi Beth,

    Can understand your feeling animosity, but it is something that does us harm if we don't let go of it.

    Hugs Nita.

  2. Some things in life just aren't fair. sorry you had that experience.

  3. I feel the same towards the nursing home where my dad was rehabilitating after falling and breaking his hip. They gave him insulin,and he never took insulin. Its hard to let go of these feelings of resentment, but over time, it diminishes. I hope you can forgive this doctor, not for his sake, but for your you can find peace of mind. Hugs.


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