Saturday, August 18, 2012

And now…

I am back to where I was when I started this blog.  Friends rallying around me, stopping by trying to help.

I was still grieving and there were no grief support groups in my little bitty town.  I checked and there were support groups at Covenant Hospital in Champaign and several of the churches in Champaign.   However all of the meetings were held in the evening and it was the dead of winter.  As I mentioned in previous posts, winter started with a bang on November 30 and just kept on keeping on.  The weather and driving a 60 mile round trip at night put an end to that thought.

I finally got an appointment with a psychologist  the first part of April.  The only one that my insurance company would allow me to see.  I made an appointment and went to see her.  The first words out of her mouth were “I don’t handle grief counseling, why are you here.”  She did condescend to talk to me a little bit.

After such a warm greeting from this professional I was in tears.  She asked me why I was crying.  She told me that I should be past the tear stage after 4 months.  She then rattled on in the same line without letting me get in a word edgewise.

She then told me it was time for her next patient and did I want to make another appointment.  I told her no thank you, I think I can handle this all by myself.

And I did handle it.  I told myself that I was tough and I was going to make it, and I did.  beth

6 comments:

  1. That's horrible. It's absolutely shameful how you were treated!

    - Ariana

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  2. I WANT TO RATTLE HER, HOW DARE SHE TELL YOU OR ANYONE THEY "SHOULD BE PAST" ANYTHING WE ALL GRIEVE DIFFERENTLY THERE IS NO TEXT BOOK GRIEF STAGES I AM NOT BUYING THAT AND I AM GLAD YOU DIDN'T EITHER. YOU ARE STRONG BETH AND JIM IS SO VERY PROUD OF THAT STRENGTH YOU HAVE SHOWN I JUST KNOW IT :)) HUGS TO A WONDERFUL WOMEN!!

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  3. Hi Beth

    I know the great physician has and will see you through Beth. The woman you mention is no credit at all to her profession, what a way to deal with people, but I have met some like her before, sometimes even Christians can be off the scale.

    Hugs Nita

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  4. I think you handles it very well. It's not easy to deal with a loss like that. People have told my cousin to "just get over it". You don't just get over it.

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  5. OH MY Sis I am furious with her remarks. Is she SERIOUS? I mean 4 months is not nearly time. I am just appalled. That woman should be taking some dang classes or something herself. I am with Janice on this one.. I would liked to have RATTLED her too. XXOO

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  6. How awful, and totally unfair. Guess she needed to go through a loss of someone dear to her, but that's no excuse. Sorry you had to go through that.

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